What is Discipline ?
Positive Discipline is different from conventional discipline and it's effective since children birth till age three.
It has NOTHING to do with PUNISHMENT and EVERYTHING to do with TEACHING and GUIDANCE.
Babies and toddlers need non-punitive discipline that enhances their development - not blame, pain and shame.
Punishment may seem to "work" in the short term. But over time, it creates rebellion, resistance and children won't believe in their own worth.
But it worked for my parents before, What am I supposed to do?
If you are screaming, yelling, or lecturing, STOP. If you are spanking, STOP. If you are trying to gain compliance through threats, warnings and lectures, STOP.
All these methods are disrespectful and encourage doubt, shame and guilt now and in the future. Punishment creates more misbehavior.
Children don't listen when they are busy feeling scared, hurt or angry. When children felt threatened, they go into a defensive mode. It may look like compliance, rebellion or anything in between because they needs to regain his sense of belonging and significance. Misbehavior "works" to regain parent's attention and involvement even it that attention is negative.
How should I implement positive discipline?
1. Get children involved in the creation of routine, by giving them several acceptable choices and providing opportunities to help
2. Teach respect by being respectful
3. Use your sense of humor
4. Get into your child's world
5. If you say it, mean it and if you mean it, follow through with kind and firm action
6. Be patient
7. Provide lots of supervision, distraction and redirection.
8. Accept your child's uniqueness
Discipline with very young children is mostly about deciding what you will do than with what you expect your child to do.
The positive discipline will help you build a relationship of love and respect with your children and will help you live and solve problems together for many years to come.
Next Topic : Getting to know your own children
In order to make positive discipline effective and successful, parents need to know their own children well, their temperamental, personalities, and their needs.
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