This question always pops up among mothers. In this modern era, mothers mostly are highly educated and they have read many parenting books about brain development.
Unfortunately, this makes mothers become so aggressive to enroll the kids to school as early as possible.
This is the big mistake that mothers ever make.
Going to school and learning are totally different things.
Yes, babies are learning as soon as they were born to survive. They learn how to breathe using nose and lungs, they learn how to drink milk when they feel hungry. They learn how to communicate with us when they are not comfortable.
And they like to learn many things as fast as possible in order to survive in this world.
They learn everything anywhere anytime, it's not necessary in the school or other confined place.
Stimulating the brain is very important especially the first 3 years of life.
But again it's not necessary to send the children to school as young as 6 months old.
What they need most are parent's love.
They learn from the parents whatever the parents do...Have you ever heard " Monkey see, monkey do" ?
They learn from daily experiences, daily activities, how parents behave and interact with others.
What are the effects of sending the kids early to school before they ready?
1. Traumatic
The kids will have this traumatic feeling and think that school is no fun at all, and it will have long term impact
2. Negative behavior
Young kids don't have understanding about right and wrong yet. They don't know whether hitting, biting, stealing and lying are wrong or right. But they will pick up this bad habit very easily with other kids
3. Low Self esteem
If you notice that your kids seem very quiet, unhappy, and when you ask is there something wrong at school but they couldn't tell, it means that your kids don't enjoy it but they can't pin point or express the feeling and it will lead to low self esteem
How to look out when your kids are ready for school?
1. Independent from parents
Meaning that they have passed their separation anxiety period. This separation anxiety period will be over around 3 or 4 years of age. They will be willingly by themselves to go to school
2. Ready for social interaction
Meaning that they are willing to share and play together with other kids. Below 3 years old is the self centered age. So don't expect your kids to share and play together with other kids.
They are more willingly to play parallel.
3. Toilet trained
Meaning that they have been toilet trained at home, they can ask the teacher when they want to go to toilet.
Don't expect the teacher to do your job for toilet training in school
4. Can express the feeling
Meaning that when they get bullied or they are unhappy at school Or when they get rewards or can complete the tasks, they can confide in you.
When they are ready for school, they will be more than happier to go to school and usually those who love to go to school will fare much better than those going to school early but unwillingly.
REMEMBER :
Spend your time with kids are more important, teach them the value and moral are necessary.
What young kids need is PARENT'S LOVE and TIME
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