Positive Discipline Principles (PART 1)

What is Discipline ?
Positive Discipline is different from conventional discipline and it's effective since children birth till age three.
It has NOTHING to do with PUNISHMENT and EVERYTHING to do with TEACHING and GUIDANCE.
Babies and toddlers need non-punitive discipline that enhances their development - not blame, pain and shame.
Punishment may seem to "work" in the short term. But over time, it creates rebellion, resistance and children won't believe in their own worth.

But it worked for my parents before, What am I supposed to do?
If you are screaming, yelling, or lecturing, STOP. If you are spanking, STOP. If you are trying to gain compliance through threats, warnings and lectures, STOP.
All these methods are disrespectful and encourage doubt, shame and guilt now and in the future. Punishment creates more misbehavior.

Children don't listen when they are busy feeling scared, hurt or angry. When children felt threatened, they go into a defensive mode. It may look like compliance, rebellion or anything in between because they needs to regain his sense of belonging and significance. Misbehavior "works" to regain parent's attention and involvement even it that attention is negative.

How should I implement positive discipline?
1. Get children involved in the creation of routine, by giving them several acceptable choices and providing opportunities to help
2. Teach respect by being respectful
3. Use your sense of humor
4. Get into your child's world
5. If you say it, mean it and if you mean it, follow through with kind and firm action
6. Be patient
7. Provide lots of supervision, distraction and redirection.
8. Accept your child's uniqueness

Discipline with very young children is mostly about deciding what you will do than with what you expect your child to do.
The positive discipline will help you build a relationship of love and respect with your children and will help you live and solve problems together for many years to come.

Next Topic : Getting to know your own children
In order to make positive discipline effective and successful, parents need to know their own children well, their temperamental, personalities, and their needs.

Welcoming year 2012 with positive mind and energy

Happy New Year to all of you.
May this New Year bring more hope, joy, prosperity and health to you and your family.

DIY Flashcard & Edu Toys will begin this new year with interesting classic article about POSITIVE DISCIPLINE.
We will divide into few parts for easy reading.

This article is summarized from the book Positive Discipline The first Three Years by Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin and Roslyn Ann Duffy.

Enjoy the reading and hope it will make your relationship with your children much more better this year

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year for all of you

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Hanoi Tower and its benefits

There’s a famous legend in Vietnam. In one of villages, there’s a temple where some monks stayed. The monks wanted to move 64 different size of chips from one tower to another tower. Because the chips were fragile, they must be extra careful to move them.

They were only able to move one by one and the bigger chip were not allowed to be put above smaller chip. Therefore, they needed another tower for temporary keeping. By that time the monk finished moving all the chips, that’s the end of the world.

If the legend is true and the monks could move the chips effectively, they need at least 18,446,744,073,709,551,615 movements. How long do you think they need to move those chips? They need at least 585,000,000,000 years.

On the other story, those chips were made from gold and if the monks were required to move them within one day, how long does it take?

Inspired by those story, Edouard Lucas, Mathematic expert from France introduced Hanoi Tower Games. Hanoi Tower is a logic games

Let see how it plays

On the first tower, they have three chips, white, black and red chip, The biggest chips is white and thesmalles chip is red on top. Now move those three chips from first tower to the last tower with this rules :

1. The chip on the bottom must be bigger than the one on top

2. The chip must be moved one by one
3. The second tower is only used temporary

This picture shows how the chips are moved. Total movement is 7.

The best way to try this Hanoi Tower games is having this Hanoi Tower and try those steps. You can purchase here at DIY Flashcard online store, Now it’s available.

Hanoi Tower is suitable for age 4 years and above, even for adults. Those who are able to solve the games, who knows in the future they will become mathematic expert.

The benefit of Hanoi tower for kids :

-          Stimulate concentration and hand – eye coordination
-          Understanding about big and small, long and short concept and color recognition
-          Kids will be entertained by this Hanoi tower and keep them busy solving the games.

Reference :

1. Wikipedia
2. Superkids, http://www.superkids.com/aweb/tools/logic/towers/math.shtml
3. Various information from internet